Let go all of my clients, deleted my email list, closed all social media accounts and effectively disappeared.
There was no fanfare, no support – in fact, a whole lot of nay-saying from my loved ones. But I knew that I had to and that it was absolutely the only way to change my life at the level I knew I could.
Here’s why I did it, how I did, and why it was essential for the liberation of my soul…
If you’ve ever wondered how it will ever be possible to get from your point A to point B, consider that what you’re looking for is actually an alchemically leveraged result.
An identity change so dramatic, that you can no longer recognise who you were.
Rather then moving from A to B, you actually leave the plane where either exist and end up in an entirely different life paradigm.
This is the ancient art of the Rite of Passage, and been all but forgotten in the modern age.
It’s a transition of Self – a foundational shift in self-concept; it’s largely internal, and it’s what I’m all about.
During my own Rite of Passage I had to become extremely powerful at being my own only source of affirmation. To turn inwards so profoundly that even the weightiest comments from others had no ultimate impact. To become so sure of myself, to know myself so deeply, that the steepest climbs to reach a summit I knew was in site were no obstacle to my spirit, even though my body ached and groaned at the feeling of what I was carrying alone.
It took grit, strategy, perseverance and self-care dialled up to the max. It took a period of intentional isolation, and it took surrounding myself again with the (new) right people when the time was right.
In ancient feminine spirituality, there’s a concept of “transcending relationships as a form of support”. It refers to the passageway of change that very few ever go through in a lifetime – that of turning so fully inward that there is no option but to encounter the true Self. That is – if one is willing to take the journey through the countless layers of false self conditioning, the woundings and trauma, and the endless array of diversions that have us turning away from the one source of power in our lives.
No distractions. No excuses. No escape.
Only yourself to reckon with. And all the ways you’ve sold yourself out, given yourself up, and squandered what was sacred. While refusing to take responsibility for your life’s direction – as if somebody else held the keys.
The ways you believed that somebody else held the keys, when the truth is, it was because you let them.
The Rite of Passage is a one-way ticket to taking your power back, and yes, you will never be the same again.
The uncomfortable truth: what is untrue to you must die for you to be born. There is no other way, you cannot choose one-foot-in and one-foot-out.
The only question is, do you have the courage to take a bet on yourself? It may take time to summon it, but the answer to this will determine your fate.
My own Rite of Passage was essential for my soul’s liberation. Yours is too – and the fact of the matter is that nobody can understand you like yourself. There are times when the only way forward is return so completely to the voice of your soul that all other noise is drowned out, and to utterly cease the desire to be “got” by anyone but yourself.
This can be really tricky when navigating the practicalities of relationships, life obligations, family, and much more, and exactly why it’s far easier to have support with the immensely complex psycho-emotional nuances of extracting yourself from what’s bound you up in the past.
Which is exactly what you need support…
Who is this for:
Women who’ve been on a journey of growth and want to go deeper than ever before into the real heart of the matter. You’re ready for this now; it’s clearly the next step, and something in your soul calls you forward.
Ciara is a Master Coach & Mentor, Somatic Therapy practitioner and trainee Psychotherapist, and has over 12 years of experience supporting women in a huge variety of settings. Her work blends feminine spirituality and ancient wisdom with the very practical overcoming of life limitations and challenges, facilitating deep psychological change and embodiment of the true self.
This work is women-oriented, women-powered, and intensely trauma-informed. With a profound sensitivity to the impact of trauma through my her own life experience, she is adept at spotting trauma patterning that has been completely overlooked, and helping women to reclaim the dignity of their full selves from beneath these painful limitations.